Becoming a New Parent. . . . . . . .Of Teens

We are getting more children in our home. we are doing what is called proctor parenting. It's kind of like foster parenting. You get the same training and have the same clearance. the kids are from dysfunctional, abusive, broken homes -yes all three are generally factors; just one factor won't usually result in the stuff that leads to proctor or foster homes.

The difference is that the proctor children have charges related to criminal behavior; whereas foster children haven't yet been caught or reached that point in their lives.

In my eyes both are wounded, both are to be loved, and as a family we are ready to do this. I do not believe in charging children or teens as adults. The research is astounding in brain development. As a society, too many children are being thrown away. I am very opposed to this. How do we expect people to make good choices when they have only been shown poor choices? They haven't had a safe place to grow up. They haven't had their  needs met. They have been physically and sexually abused. They have been told they are worthless and have been shown that when  an adult gets upset they become the punching bag.

I want to show them that they are a person of worth. They can succeed by making right choices. They are not for hurting. There are different ways to live. I want them to know that God has answered their prayer to be safe and to be loved.

There is more support for the child in proctor parenting. They have a case manager, a judge, a therapist, and a program to help them as well as the help they receive in the home.

My children love the young lady that we have. There is another one joining us soon.
They will be in posts as soon as we come up with psuednyms for them to protect their identity.

We are taking girls because there is a need. When the need shifts then we are open to having boys then.

If you ask questions I will answer.  I will do that in the comments section, so check back.